You have probably heard of it. You have possibly imagined it. You have probably seen it happen to other people. But chances are you have never experienced it yourself—the mystical Perfect Dating Match.
Admit it or not, all people, including you, need other people. Whether it be for romantic or sexual purposes, these are the facts. Once in a relationship, of whatever form, you get a lot of benefits. There is always someone to talk to and spend your free time with. No alone Sundays. No solo nights.No feeling of loneliness. And although there are some obvious downsides of being in a relationship, it is hard to argue that dating someone isn’t fun.
However, this seems like a much later part compared to where it all begins. To be with someone first, you need to meet that person. There are thousands of places where this could happen. You could accidentally bump into someone doing grocery shopping, you might want to use apps like Tinder, or maybe you are consciously using advice from blogs like Beyond Ages.
Feel free to do what suits you best. Keep in mind that no matter your strategy, some tips could help you meet the right person at any moment. Who knows, maybe you already know them, and this article will make you understand that?
If that is the case, you are welcome. If not, read on to get to know how to find the Perfect Dating Match.
- Be clear about what kind of relationship you are looking for
This one is not only important. It is fundamental. You need to know that before you start looking for someone to date. And once you start, you need to let them know. Ask yourself some basic questions:
What do I want the relationship to look like?
Do I want a partner for life or a friend with benefits?
Do I want to spend most of my time with that person, or is it more of a weekend thing?
Would I want to date several people at once or better not?
Do I want to have fun, or do I want to build a serious relationship?
Don’t hesitate to ask the other person those questions too. Establishing that is crucial. Imagine how wrong it would be to be with someone just because of the physical aspects while they are falling in love? Or worse. The other way round. Set things clear to avoid such potential misunderstandings.
- Be careful when you see a red flag.
When looking for a lover, be very cautious. Red flags are particular patterns of behaviors or repetitive unpleasant situations with no solution that suggest your relationship will not be a long-lasting one.
It is super important that you don’t give the other person too much credit just because they are there. Sometimes you could be better off without them. Plus, you are missing the opportunity to meet someone great when dating the wrong person.
Common red flags include:
- Continually making excuses not to meet you
- Fights over unimportant things
- Everything is about them, nothing about you
- The person you are dating is always being critical of you
- They talk about their ex more than about you
- A massive sense of entitlement to do things they should not
- The connection
If you are looking for a soulmate, the best advice possible is to let the two of your souls mate. Built a genuine connection with the person you are dating. Don’t pretend you are someone you are not. Firstly, you will get tired at some point, and secondly, they will see that sooner or later.
SEE WHAT DO YOU HAVE IN COMMON. WHAT DO YOU BOTH SHARE?
When it comes to first dates, please pay attention to the person you are talking to. When it comes to testing a relationship you are already in, do the same thing. People forget to listen actively to each other. Try it, and you will see whether you are interested in this person. Also, you will be able to see what kind of dynamics this particular relation will, probably forever, have.
- Be patient, and don’t be too judging.
You may not fall head over heels the first time you meet someone. That is fine. Give them time. Please give it to yourself too. Almost everyone feels stressed at the beginning. You want to say one thing, and suddenly something completely different comes out of your mouth. Once you get the strange gaze and understand what you have just said, it is already too late, and you are left with the “was it me?” thought. Yes. It was. So the next time your date says something stupid, forgive them. They are probably normal people but freaking out a little.
- Trust your gut
Cheesy as it sounds, that is the best possible advice out there. No one knows you as you do. Only you know how you feel about someone. Remember that no relationship, no matter how good the people who are making it, will not be healthy if you do not feel it.
Finally, be okay not having the perfect date just yet. Sooner or later, you will experience it. However, the less you look for it, the higher chances of encountering it are. For more dating tips, click here.